Monday, May 30, 2005

Gift Matters


A colleague of mine came up to me and said, "It's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow. I don't know what to give him. Can you suggest?"


"He is into F1 and Liverpool. He's quite trendy too. But I don't know what to get him. Buying a gift for guys is soooooooo difficult."

You've got to be kidding me, I said.

Sorry to say, but why is it so difficult to buy a birthday present for guys? Because seriously, it doesn't take much to please us actually. Buy us that Topman tee shirt, and we will wear it on the dates. Buy us that Eternity Summer Edition cologne and it will be the only scent you will smell. Buy us food and we will eat it. Difficult?

But, specifically for me, the only pet peeves with gifts is that it didn't exactly come from the person. For example, it was a collective decision from her girlfriends to the present she should buy for me. I say...why like that?

When you give a gift to somebody, make sure it comes directly from you, and only you, and your heart. The gift does not have to be expensive, or even bought. But, at the end of the day, the gift should be a reflection of your friendship or relationship. The best gifts to me are the ones that reveal a little bit more of the other person, and that is truly special.

And what utter nonsence about being too old for gifts. Simply can't comprehend...

"So what should I give him?" she repeated.

What do you want to give him?

"A white shirt, I think. I like him when he wears white shirts."

Than give him that.


Blogger kepala_angin said...

i think it is the dilemma of giving that someone what you want to give him versus giving him something that he wanted/needed. Because at the end of the day, you'll want that person to love the present because they love it and also because it comes from you.

am i making sense here?

6:38 PM  
Blogger Pantani's 2nd Cousin said...

i aint wearing a topman tshirt. no way.

6:52 PM  
Blogger thingsaboottogetvaryinterestinghear said...

a topman shirt? eeewwwwwww

6:57 PM  
Blogger Dade Ghost said...

Yup I agree, give sincerely. So many times we have "udang sebalik mee".....

7:23 PM  
Blogger Inn said...

uh. good idea. i like men in crisp clean white shirts :)

I normally buy my friends something tat i think they'll like rather than something i like coz if not i'll end up buying them books ALL the time. hahahahah!

When i play it safe, I'll buy a few things for one person(esp coz at times i couldnt decide) heh.

7:36 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

kepala_angin :

you are making complete sense. :)

theroadie :

no worries about that. i know you want that pink spandex, don't you? :) huhuhuhuhu...


Okay, okay. I said Topman because it is of a reasonable (cheap) price. I sense that you and the Roads are capable of buying A/X, CK or those in that nature...than yeah, an A/X shirt will do. ;P

7:49 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

dade ghost :

yeah, which goes to another point: when you do gifts, do you expect an equivalent on your birthday? I have many friends who secretly complain to me that they don't get "quality" b-day gifts. Well, bought them a key chain? You get a key chain back. huhuhuh...(just kidding).

inn :

You sound like a great gift giver! take that as a huge compliment, k babe? ;) and agreed, don't ever buy for someone what you like; buy what you think they will like. although, you can always give me books. love 'em. :))

7:54 PM  
Blogger Dade Ghost said...

Thats one thing about giving gifts Muddy, we usually want something better in return. Taught myself long time ago, never to expect anything in return when I give anything. Then I realise, I can be sincere..... ermmmm

9:25 PM  
Blogger kiezamy said...

this makes me jump on the bandwagon too - what to get for my bf's bday in 1 week time..hehe, think i know what i want to get him. :)

10:42 PM  
Blogger silent reverie said...

buy something that they like? what if...

1) they like everything. which one to buy and what to buy eh?

2) they dont like anything. what to give eh?


11:03 PM  
Blogger yanz said...

why so hard to buy gifts?? u will know that someone after a certain time.. just have to be OBSERVANT and aware of what he/she likes, what he/she needs, and such. should be a breeze!! not hard to please the ones we love la.. just as long as we don't have expectations in return.

11:40 PM  
Blogger shell said...

it's HARD. period.
u got anniversary, birthday and valentine in a year.
I cannot give him different shades of topman shirt or different color of spandex, can i?
I cannot give him watch or perfume on every occasion, can i?
what else muddy.. tell me.. :)

11:57 PM  
Blogger lissa said...

i used to have problems like this, and me being really enthuasiast about ppl's birthday, i just had to make it right,so i gave my bf whut i think he needs, and whut i think he wants.. (for we never agree on the same thing, go figure)

i think he needs a new shirt for work, and i think he wants a slim plier that he's been mentioning all the time, but never has the time to buy one.

so i got him both, and made it personal.

the shirt is in my fav colour, and i got an apek to engrave his name on the slim plier.

well, he's happy, i'm happy

23 years more birthdays, i think he'll get a full set of tools

11:59 PM  
Blogger random-girl said...

to me, buying presents for anyone is a chore - boy or girl.

i'm really useless when it comes to buying gifts for people at the right time (ie on their birthday). i'm more the sort of person to give a gift when i feel like it, birthday or not, so long as i feel that the person will appreciate it.

notice how i never bought you a present for your b'day? well, that's because i knew that you'ld appreciate my mee tomato more than whatever i could not afford in topman or CK... so instead i specifically went to the pasar and bought the ingredients for you to make it.

gift giving is never limited to once a year for me... so whenever you feel like mee tomato again... you know where to find me :)

12:10 AM  
Blogger random-girl said...

sorry - i meant *bought the ingredients so I could make it for you*

12:16 AM  
Blogger lissa said...

dude, u mean

'Then' give him that, rite?

or it was intended to be

'Than give him that'

2:46 AM  
Blogger nais said...

waittaminute mister, it is hard to get presents for guys because you really don't wanna give the typical gifts (i.e shirt/tie/wallet/tshirt/cologne).
but there are alternatives lah.. like

1. ashtray for smokers
2. dinner
3. a trip to the bowling alley
4. swiss army knife
5. a book (gift vouchers if you don't know what kinda book to get)
6. CD
7. a fish (fighting fish-easy to jaga)
8. a massage at some massage place
9. slippers!

the list goes on and on lah.. I think the key to buying a present for a guy is to NOT worry too much about it. but do consider the man's interest.. like, if he collects art pieces, then go to a gallery together and get him one! otherwise, you can always make him a photo album with pictures in it :)

3:41 AM  
Blogger shobshob said...

hah this is SO challenging!

i think i gotta learn from my past experience, where i ask for opinions from my best friends for my gf's birthday gift. After reading this, she'll probably get mad at me (if she knows it), coz it won't be that special for her.. But it was really a sincere gift.. Don't wanna do that again! :( Huhu...

3:46 AM  
Blogger mangolisa said...


when it is the birthday of loved ones buy something for yourself -- sexy lingerie, a day in the spa etc etc... and then tie a red ribbon wear you want him to kiss first... and two ribbons on the next step etc etc...

He can buy himself a shirt, a bottle of perfume and even a pint any day but it is nto everyday he gets to see you in *that* glow with you skin gleaming and glistenign from pampering...

this I think is a better gift than stressing and sweating yourself for weeks to come up with a great present him ;-)

5:52 AM  
Blogger aeyya said...

G.I.F.T?? juz had a long conversation and discussion with ma fren bout this...and the conclusion is tat "price dun rily matter" but the thoughts and the feel of being special and different! isnt handmade card means more than the bought? isnt a simple edit mixup black&white photo means a lot? but hye humans will alwiz and still be human... obviously BrandedGift will be accept if affordable aite ;)

p.s// yeah amad i got ur Bday Wish msg...thanzmate miss ya tOoo

7:52 AM  
Blogger K. Light said...

I;ve got a couple of presents due soon as well. It's hard work getting presents for the ladies. This won't do, that is not quite right etc etc etc. That's too suggestive bla bla bla. But I hear it's harder to shop for men? Reallly now?

btw lisa, following that vein of thought, what do you think of buying myself a new ipod so the other ppl can enjoy seeing me listen to my music? I'll be a sight for sore eyes....*mulling it over* ;D

11:41 AM  
Blogger Muddy said...

dade ghost :

can't argue with that. the joy of giving is to see the joy of the receivers reaction to the gift. and yes, as we grow older, we have to realise that giving in itself is joyful. but then again, sometimes every giver do expect a litte return...sometimes a bigger return. Muahahaha...(kidding lah)

kiezamy :

Heheheh...good to know you know what to give him! :) But my advice is, if you are thinking of purchasing him a gift, don't ever, ever go buy the gift with your girlfriends. It just seems a tad impersonal and creepy that way (for me, that is...) heheheh...

silent reverie :

hmmmmmm...good questions. Ok -

1) If they like everything, that means they will like whatever you purchase. (Right?)

2) And if they don't like anything, than you might as well not purchase a gift per se. Perhaps bring that person out for a good ol' steak, ice cream, or even cook that person your speciality. A good friend of mine once baked me a box full of brownies, which i thought, was a very sweet gift. Pun intended too. ;)

5:37 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

yanz :

wow, you also sound like a great gift giver! so, no expectations on your wedding gifts from your bloggers, right? hehehehe...;P

shell :

oh wow, you sound like a great girlfriend. hehehehe...if you put it that way, perhaps you should refer to Mangolisa's comment (see below) for your next gift inspiration...;P

Lissa karina :

hehehehe...that's really cute actually. to think about it, it will be a cool tradition to fill in that tool box a year at a time. (wah, can tell grandkids about that love tradition too.) ;))

5:45 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

Random-girl :

Hehehehehe...thanks for the clarification. I was like, cheh! Buy the ingredients so I can make it? hehehehe...and yeah, LOVE LOVE LOVE your mee tomato. It is such a great gift! :) But damn, you are making me hungry already...heheheh...

lissa karina :

Hahahaha...damn, me english not so good lah. Then kot. hehehe...

nais :

wow, you sound like a great wife lah. i bet jengjeng have never complained. hehehehe...and wow, going to the gallery and buying him an art piece? canggih canggih! :)

5:51 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

Shobshob :

Oh wow, if it was sincere, than it doesn't really matter, right? Whatever it is, try giving away a gift that comes sincerely from you always. As such, it will be a great gift. :)

Mangolisa :

OH WOW!!! Sexy sexy sexy!!! I bet your husband have never given any complaints to your gifts, because damn, I wouldn't! ;p hehehehe...

Aeyya :

Hey babe, glad you got my birthday wish!!! I wasn't sure if you did; i sent it via sms, via your friendster page, via your blog...tried the whole damn mile! yeah, can't wait to see you back in KL. Miss you tons.

Anuar :

I actually enjoy buying gifts for girls, especially when seeing their expressions when seing the gift. Priceless, I say...hehehe

And, I love the new ipod! *hint hint hint*. Muahahahah....

6:02 PM  
Blogger lissa said...

my english sux too, and i'm sorry i was being a bitch to point that out

heads off to mangolisa.. thats a really good gift

gotta keep that in mind for my future husband..if ever i'm married that is

7:46 PM  
Blogger Pojan said...

Lately, when buying gifts, i opted the easy way, i asked them what they want. haha. Some told me what they want, which eventually i would buy those things for them as long it's within my means. For the rest who didn't tell me what they want, i just buy them whatever i think they would love to get. eg: ordered a bouquet of roses to be delivered to friend's office. Made sure everyone in her office could see it. I know she would love the attention.. tu yang mahal tu. haha.

8:23 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

lissa karina : worries lah. it actually made me "think" about what i wrote. and interesting point there :

-then : my colleague should "then" buy him the white shirt.

-than : my colleague should buy him the white shirt rather "than" what other people suggest.

interesting. interesting. hehehe...

pojan :

Oh wow, you are a romantic chap lah! Bagus bagus! But imagine if she gave you a bouquet of roses also in your office...exactly, how would you react? :P

10:55 PM  
Blogger the kimster said...

Try a die-cast F1 model (depending on which team he supports). Size 1:18 is best, size 1:43 is not bad.

Or she can always go for a safer bet: Liverpool home jersey *YAWN*

12:24 AM  
Blogger the kimster said...

This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

12:27 AM  
Blogger Pojan said...

i'd love it?
how would you feel if someone sends you a bouquet of roses to your office? do tell.

12:44 AM  
Blogger wingnut/chickquita said...

for girls: thongs.

for guys: clueless. yep. i'm one of 'em girls. clueless. that's why i discussed with my bf about what to give to him and vice versa. think that's acceptable. predictable enough, but everyone's happy, so i guess no harm in that.

bf's wishlist for his birthday: guitars, ps2 special edition, ipod which i'm never getting him anyway. ingat aku cetak duit hapeeeeee

1:11 AM  
Blogger adekmanis said...

I think I give great gifts. No, I KNOW I give great gifts. Women always give great gifts. Men, on the other hand, give their significant others gardening tools for valentines day and kapcai helmets for their anniversaries. So go figure :p

3:06 AM  
Blogger Han said...

For a birthday gift, this guy I knew made a card. So he broke out the spray cans and mounted a piece of paper on some cardboard backing. After finishing the one side he flips the paper over, leaving enough room for the token well-wishings. Thoughtful although the effort amounted to less than 5 minutes of work. The fact that he was amazingly talented helped the process along.

The arts and crafts gift should not be overlooked.

10:49 AM  
Blogger Muddy said...

Pojan :

If someone gave me flowers, I would die. Me? Flowers? Might as well give me hornets nest to show love and appreciation. But then again, if it is really a sincere gift and not a joke, then by all means, give me them flowers! Huhuhuhu...

Wingnut/Chickquita :

Hey, thanks for dropping by! :) And wow, it does seem like a collective decision that girls love their thongs. ;) and yeah, wished someone gave me an Ipod....(huhuhuh...ok ok, I will buy it on my own.)

Chi :

Your confidence in buying gifts makes me wanna invite you to all my bday celebrations. ;) and kapchai helmuts? Muahahah...I guess the men in your life don't have a clue. On the other hand, I do. hehehehe...

Han :

Arts and craft are so personal, it's wonderful. But the problem with my arts and crafts is that it only reeks "cheap". Will a paper hat do? Mehehehe...

5:23 PM  
Blogger Han said...


Say it with popsicle sticks.

9:32 PM  
Blogger KaiserSoze said...

My usual response to my wife's annual december query...

"Just get a red ribbon, tie it into a giant bow and wear that....just that"

12:00 AM  
Blogger kiezamy said...

muddy, dont worry. It's just gng to be me out buying his present, just me. nO1 else involve..teehee..

7:24 AM  
Blogger Muddy said...

Han :

A hand-made popsicle hat. Nifty. hehehehe...:)

Kaisersoze :

Sifu, where have you been?, what a sexy gift! So where should she put the birthday card then? hehehehehe...

Kiezamy :

That's good to hear. Have fun (in all shades and degrees...hehehehe) during his birthday! ;)

5:00 PM  
Blogger Vlad said...

Or you could always be like Frank The Tank in Old School, where he kept recycling gifts -- no matter how obvious it is.


5:30 PM  
Blogger the jamie said...

I don't it's that easy to please men. That's why she asked for your opinion. If she buy something that he already have or not needed, rugi la pulak kan. I would rather asked the birthday boy/girl what he/she wants. Lagi senang.

7:20 AM  
Blogger KaiserSoze said...


Yes, guilty of not updating my blog for the following reasons:

1) Last of my MBA exams
2) Back to back wedding of closest cousins-am very much involved
3) Piling workload...arghhh

Have to find time to udate my page, been almost a month...:(

10:55 PM  
Blogger Muddy said...

Kaisersoze :

Hey sifu, good luck with your exams! You can do it! *doing the wave...*

6:52 AM  
Blogger lilgrass said...

enjoy reading your posts...=)

12:31 AM  

Post a Comment

<< Home